@Hurray, while I agree with the logic behind kings' fear of crowds, perhaps it makes sense to some people. The showing off in weddings have been outrageous in Nepalese society in the recent years. Millions of rupees (even the cheap ones) are being spent, janti in helicopter, streets are blocked for janti. I know people want to spend their money 'whatever the #$@# way they want'. I get that. But it put a lot of pressure on who cannot. One may not get bride/groom because he/she cannot afford.
Do you know the marriage status of poor males in China? It's a huge social problem. Kids numbers were controlled with 'one child policy', where males are preferred. So what happened, the female population is highly outnumbered by that of males'. So girls family can afford to be very picky and choose the guys who can spend a LOT OF MONEY on her, so a lot of poor guys cannot find brides in that country. It may look a bit different analogy, but roots to the same wealth problem where behaviour of haves directly exhausts have nots.
Do you know the dawry, dahej, is outlawed for a while (may be with the same muluki ain)? Now socially accepted, much more than before, as a lot of women espcially in Terai are mistreated, tourtured or even killed if they don't bring a lot of dahej? If the whole village glorifies in dahej and wealthy ones give out a lot that puts a lot of pressure on the poor ones. Therefore, I think these kind of things needs to be put in check, until the social mood changes...just like until people can say freely 'it's ok to have bishwakarma as my surname.'
